We just finished the Marriage Course at the Vineyard and the last lesson was on the Love Languages by Gary Chapman. I knew the languages of my wife were Quality Time and Thoughtful Acts. We had to make a list of twelve things to do with our spouses. One of the things I thought of was making brownies together and a pot of coffee. She wondered about this until I said, "We will have something to eat and drink when we sit down for couple time." Someone I spoke to of this said, "You hit a homerun with that one!"
Brownies and coffee. She said she had wanted to cook together before this so it was easy to come up with this item. I went to culinary school before ministry and so working in a kitchen is second nature to me. However, working with someone in a confined space is very difficult. It requires a coordination of effort not to step on the others toes. With the presence of sharp instruments, it could be risky.
Marriage is like this situation. Working together in close spaces to complete the task of marriage requires training and the ability to put aside my "dish" or her "dish" to complete the meal on task and on time. There are many sharps in marriage which could harm the other person. These are "sharp words" and "sharp demands" which injure your partner.
Something else about working in a professional kitchen. You don't TOUCH another cooks knives. You know not to ask and you also know these tools of the trade identify your professionalism. If you buy cheap knives it says you are not taking your job seriously. I own a chef's knife which twenty years ago cost $70. You show your "marriage professionalism" by what you are willing to invest in your future. Marriage is not something taken for granted unless you plan no future.
Brownies and coffee. The cost of the date will be very small but the effort will produce a large return.
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